The Well Way
Keep the well clean. Keep the sisterhood sacred.
Womb Well is a place to come home to yourself — and to be held in sisterhood while you do.
But a safe space doesn’t happen by chance. It’s created, moment by moment, by how we speak, listen, disagree, and repair. This is our shared way. Not rules to control you — but a commitment to protect what’s tender. A reminder that we can be honest without being harmful, and that sisterhood can be both soft and strong.
At the Well, we agree to:
Bring warmth in our hearts
We meet one another with compassion and kindness — including ourselves.
Practise respect, always
Belonging is the antidote to shame. Shame holds power in the dark, but it diminishes in the light — and we choose to bring things into the light with care. Every woman is welcome through all seasons of her life. Her perspective, background, and reason for being in circle are hers — and are to be honoured. We hold the premise that no woman is wrong for her story, feelings, or choices. We all have agency over our lives, and we support one another with full respect.
Choose inclusion
You belong here — exactly as you are. We honour difference, identity, culture, and lived experience. It adds to the rich tapestry of this space, and we learn from one another.
Honour consent
We ask permission before touch, and we respect personal boundaries. We tread gently with questions, and we go only as far as each woman feels comfortable. Advice that hasn’t been asked for can feel like interference — so it must be explicitly invited.
Listen to understand
We listen with presence, not performance. We don’t interrupt, fix, or compete. We listen not to respond, but to understand — with curiosity, compassion, and a willingness to learn shared wisdom.
Hold confidentiality
We protect each other’s privacy as sacred. What’s shared in circle stays in circle. We don’t retell another woman’s story outside this space — and if a conversation is ever revisited outside of circle, it’s only with her explicit invitation.
Take responsibility for triggers
We can name what’s arising, ask for what we need, and seek support — without blaming others for what’s activated in our bodies. We build trust with honest truths. Triggers can be an invitation to learn ourselves more deeply, and we honour the growth they bring.
Avoid FRAPing
We do not try to “fix” each other — we are not broken. Nor do we rescue, advise, or project. We honour each woman’s agency and the power she holds within herself to meet what’s moving through her. There is a fine line between empathy and inserting ourselves into someone else’s story. We meet each woman where she is, and we hold what is sacred for her in that moment. We trust her inner wisdom and timing.
Make space for non-closure
We accept that life is complicated, and not everything can be resolved in one circle. Sometimes healing is simply being witnessed. Sometimes healing begins as a small seed — and it unfolds in its own time.
When it gets messy (because it will)
We understand what it is to be human. Misunderstandings can happen.
When it’s tender, we go WELL: Wait. Exhale. Listen. Lead with care.
Wait (don’t fire back)
Exhale (regulate yourself first)
Listen (to understand, not to win)
Lead with care (own your impact and repair
If something lands badly, you have the right to say “ouch.”
And we have the responsibility to respond with humility, not defensiveness.
Judgement is part of being human
Judgement is a normal protective mechanism — it often appears when something in us is trying to feel safe. When judgement arises, we practise S.O.F.T.: Stop. Observe. Feel. Tend.
· Stop the snap-response
· Observe the judgement without labelling it “bad”
· Feel what lies beneath (fear, hurt, protection, shame)
· Tend with honesty and care (name impact, apologise, reset)